What I Learned about Love

Frankly, I literally sang postaday’s latest title post which is also the same title of a popular ballad song I am familiar with.

A heart being used as a symbol of love. Photo ...

Sometimes I still ask myself what really love is! As I was growing up I observe how love is demonstrated in our family especially the way my parents treat us at home.

I’m blessed to have parents who are very supportive in our personal endeavors. There were a couple of times I wanted to tell them not to allow me to go out very late with friends when I inform them beforehand about my trip.

And then I will also hear from other friends that their parents are very strict on them. They have curfews and ironically I wondered why my parents do not impose that to us.

I also like that I am strengthening my relationship with my family from my parents to my brother-siblings.

Just like in a group of friends, there is a possibility that I will have one or two closest friends whom I can share interesting topics to talk to. That also happens in a family. I am closer to my mom and my younger brother since the three of us almost have comparable personal mood swings, traits and interests.

But as time went by, I learned that it is also important to connect to the other members of the family whom I do not have frequent interaction.

How I did it? I just initiated to have a conversation separately with them which I think we can both talk about which started from their personal interests. Such gesture was a great improvement from me since I did not imagine that I can also have longer talks with them.

And to end my post, I would like to share a quote from Mother Teresa:

“Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do… but how much love we put in that action.”

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Success Is Not…

Fame (2009 film)

I stayed up late at night to catch up watching a movie called Fame which I already saw a couple of years ago. I still remember almost all of the scenes especially the part when Denise who plays her classical piano began to sing her heart out with Out Here On My Own thinking she was alone in their school’s auditorium. And what really stuck in my mind was Jenny’s speech about success:

There are some things
success is not

It’s not fame.
It’s not money or power.

Success is waking up
in the morning

so excited about
what you have to do

that you literally
fly out the door.

It’s getting to work
with people you love.

Success is connecting with the
world and making people feel.

It’s finding a way to
bind together people

who have nothing in
common but a dream.

It’s falling asleep at night knowing
you did the best job you could.

Success is joy and
freedom and friendship.

And success is love.

Thoughts about The Joy Luck Club

The Joy Luck Club

Earlier, I watched a movie on HBO entitled The Joy Luck Club. I missed the first few minutes of the movie when I opened our television and was intrigued about the series of flashbacks recounted by different women with stories interwoven by mother-and-daughter perspectives.

My attention was glued to everyone’s background story from their life as a child, to being married and becoming an adult, and until they reached a point when each of them had to resolve their personal circumstances with the help and advice from their respective mothers.

I empathized to most of the characters especially those who struggled through a difficult marriage. What I personally like and touching from most of the scenes was that it was through the toughest moment in their lives which led them to their mother-and-daughter dialogues, which in turn, helped their respective daughters to make a decision to redeem their self-worth.

I remember I read from a book that some of the present happenings in our lives are somehow connected from what our ancestors did in their early lives. As depicted in the movie, it appears that a particular action which happened from the past would most likely repeat in the next generation. They say the only way to break that pattern is to choose the other way around. That is to make a better and positive choice which I find thought-provoking as well.

As a whole, the realizations each mother-and-daughter tandem had from their own personal experience was really insightful especially when it dealt with life, love, marriage, and building relationships. Still the message that resonates is to know what your real worth is.

Tears of Joy

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Be Careful With My Heart’s Maya and Abby
Photo Sources: [L] Maya and Abby, [R] Maya

For some reason I cry while watching attentively to a light drama. I get easily touched especially when I’ve known the characters since the series started and find them empathizing with the current situation they are both in.

Like when the nanny who has been looking after the mute child since she became one finally hears the latter talking was really moving. Though it was a simple scene and without being overly dramatic in their acting, I too cried with the characters as if I also knew them personally.

I also found myself crying when I watched an anime character doing everything she can just so she can save not only the world but also the person whom the small lady (or her real daughter from the future) became friends with. This may appear shallow to some but I found the particular scene where she almost broke down dramatically stirring.

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Super Sailormoon

Knowing the crazy funny side of the protagonists from the two different series, I came to realize that the goodness they have in them was the great factor why I shed those tears of joy. It may also be that I still appreciate the inner unique goodness of people especially those who genuinely care not only for the special people in their lives but also for others’ well-being.

What Love Is

While browsing in the internet, I saw the following poem when I searched about the ever loved lines from 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.  These were even made emphasis by Nicolas Sparks in a book which later became a movie called A Walk to Remember. The book is actually my most favorite book of his. Whenever I think about the meaning of love, I always remember that it comes from a particular epistle written by St. Paul. Here’s an edited version by Dr. David Alan Black for our continuous appreciation.

Love is very patient,
Love is very kind,
Love is never envious
Or vaunted up with pride.

Nor is she conceited,
And never is she rude,
Never does she think of self
Or ever get annoyed.

She never is resentful,
Is never glad with sin,
But always glad to side with truth,
Whene’er the truth should win.

She bears up under everything,
Believes the best in all,
There is no limit to her hope,
And never will she fall.

Poem Credits: http://www.isv.org

My Valentine’s Day

Anthropomorphic Valentine, circa 1950-1960

Image via Wikipedia

It seems this day has become a holiday.  I believe it is great to start this week with lots of love! My mom and I just went to the mall to buy some stuff needed for our ICON at Camarines Sur. As I walked inside the mall, I started noticing some people either wearing a pink or a red shirt. Guess what I wore today? I wore a purple blouse! I thought I would only be the person to wear that color. Good thing I only noticed a few.

So how was my Valentine’s Day today?  I was first awakened by my mom’s Valentine greeting from my Nokia mobile phone. (Have I greeted her back already? I wonder.) Anyway, I wrote down some of my beautiful thoughts for the day. I must say that I enjoy doing them every single day that my small notebook is already full. I’m glad I already bought a new one, and this time a bigger one. Since it is still early in the morning, I practiced dancing the dance steps I learned from yesterday. Dancing also served as my morning exercise as well. How nice!

By afternoon, I even fancied myself for I paid a few bills this Heart’s day. Isn’t that lovely?!  I will no longer get into the details. All I know is that I am happy that I still have the capacity to pay. I believe more abundant blessings are to come my way. A love song comes to mind instantly which says, “Love, love has come my way…”.  After my mom and I are done shopping for clothes and stuff, I observed that more and more people are coming into the mall. I am very sure most of them celebrated Valentine’s Day with their loved ones by eating in a restaurant. Love, love is definitely making people happier and lovable with everybody.

As I end my Valentines post, I would like to greet everyone reading this a Happy Hearts Day! May we become more abundantly in love not only with our loved ones but with every person we meet.

P.S. ICON is actually an International Conference wherein members CFC-Singles for Christ gather from all over the Philippines and across the globe.