Earlier, I watched a movie on HBO entitled The Joy Luck Club. I missed the first few minutes of the movie when I opened our television and was intrigued about the series of flashbacks recounted by different women with stories interwoven by mother-and-daughter perspectives.
My attention was glued to everyone’s background story from their life as a child, to being married and becoming an adult, and until they reached a point when each of them had to resolve their personal circumstances with the help and advice from their respective mothers.
I empathized to most of the characters especially those who struggled through a difficult marriage. What I personally like and touching from most of the scenes was that it was through the toughest moment in their lives which led them to their mother-and-daughter dialogues, which in turn, helped their respective daughters to make a decision to redeem their self-worth.
I remember I read from a book that some of the present happenings in our lives are somehow connected from what our ancestors did in their early lives. As depicted in the movie, it appears that a particular action which happened from the past would most likely repeat in the next generation. They say the only way to break that pattern is to choose the other way around. That is to make a better and positive choice which I find thought-provoking as well.
As a whole, the realizations each mother-and-daughter tandem had from their own personal experience was really insightful especially when it dealt with life, love, marriage, and building relationships. Still the message that resonates is to know what your real worth is.
Rejection gives you the opportunity to look in another direction at things you might not have seen otherwise. ~The Single Woman
I heard a similar quote before and it is only now that I am beginning to understand its meaning. Maybe because I have ignored the things I thought were just okay for me but it turned out that I was also hurt in the process. There were times that I would immediately shrug them off thinking I can manage them in just a snap of my finger. But lo and behold, I found myself in crying state because it was only then that I realized I was not successful with my pursuit.
The denial feeling may have temporarily appeased the broken heartedness but that did not totally solve the problem. I realized to myself that it is alright for me to let myself feel dramatic at times and just for a moment feel the pain. And that I also got to embrace my own flaws because it is through them that I am learning to love myself more.
My journey towards fulfilling a personal dream has been a learning experience for me as I get to discover my potentials and other things I am eager to pursue, that is to be helpful in the best way I can especially to the people I care for. I believe those hurtful events of my life just happened so I can learn to let go of the unnecessary things and relearn to make wiser priorities.
I never thought the rejections I had even allowed me to reassess the things I wanted to achieve and to discover what I truly want which I have been asking myself a lot lately. This could also be the reason why I encountered a couple of failures, before realizing that it meant I am being redirected to a different and much better path to tread on. I am overwhelmingly grateful for those experiences because they encouraged me to become bolder and braver in fulfilling my personal goals. And because of that, I look forward for better opportunities to improve in every aspect of my life – emotionally, physically, financially, and spiritually.
Looking back at all of my past disappointments and frustrations, I am glad that I am becoming more appreciative of the simpler things I used to neglect my attention to and at the same time, aiming higher far reaching what I am destined to be.